COPING  WITH  AROUSAL:

Really severe pain is a great spur to rapid learning.

Challenge is not signal for dispair. Challenge is for more information and better thinking.

• – Better give path to the dog than be bitten by him. Even killing the dog would not cure the bite.
• – Listen to your enemies remarks they are the first to catch your mistakes.
• – People rarely feel good  about themselves for being unkind to others.
• An open enemy is better than a hollow friend.
• – When we hate our enemies we are giving them power over us.
• – Speak lees in short words.
• Laugh! And the world will laugh with you: cry & you cry alone.
• – Don’t dwell to long on the shortcomings of others.
• – Never fear with shadows; they simply mean there is a light somewhere nearby.
• -Keep cool: Anger is not an argument.An argument is always full of poison
• – When you do express anger, do so strategically.
• – Learn to differentiate between “getting angry and acting on it”
• – Use your muscles more and your brain less when you are worried.
• – Better a thousand energy outside than one inside.
• – The best argument is that which seems merely an explaination.
• – When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that three of his fingers are pointing at himself.
• – One cannot help bird of sorrow flying over ones head but one can prevent it from nesting over one’s head.
• – I am sensitive yet sensible.
• – Think before doing work, and sometime stay untalking while working.
• – A suspicious interpretation often follows naturally from one’s existing perception.
• – Avoid running your misfortunes throuhout your mind like a repeating phonograph record.
• – A man who gives into temptation after five minutes simply does not know  what it would have been like an hour later. That is why bad people is a same, how very like about badness.
• – The greatest enemy of clear, straight thinking is emotion.
• – Allow the other side to let off steam.
• – First recognize and understand emotions, their & yours.
• – Make emotion explicit & acknowledge them as legitimate.
• – Don’t react to emotional outbussts.
• Recast an attack on you as an attack on the problem.
• – Ask quostions and pause; because questions educates not criticise.
• – Do not let someone treat your doubts as a personal attack.
• – In order to win over an adversary; ask them a favor and look for ways to repay the favor.
• – Dont act on emotions instead hear them out.